The rules I live by are so ingrained that I rarely recognize them as such.
Like most people, I live according to many small, particular (one might say petty) rules and belief systems that are now so ingrained that I rarely even recognize them as such. I’ve mentioned some of these in a previous essay, but a few examples of my personal rule/belief system are:
Beds should be made every day;
If I particularly enjoy a TV show, it won’t last beyond one season;
Toenails should always be painted bright, pretty colors during sandal season.
But, as I also mentioned in that earlier essay, I do not constrain anyone to adhere to my rules and beliefs, since my overarching conviction, the one that informs my entire life, is that compromise is essential to peaceful human interaction. This is made easier by the fact that I live alone; my cats rarely argue with me, and, when they do, I’m the Mom; I win. But I still consider the ability to compromise to be a vital element of human maturity. (Unfortunately, the state of current society in America indicates all too sadly that this essential principle has been pretty well abandoned.)
Anyway, being easily entertained, I recently wasted a little time considering the other rules and beliefs under which I operate, and compiling a list of them. I found this activity enlightening, especially when I began comparing my personal “Life System” to those of my friends. It was astounding not just how many factors we agreed upon, but disagreed on. (That whole compromise thing again; that is why we remain friends.)
So here is a brief list of just a few of the vital rules and beliefs by which I discovered I live. To wit:
Bedsheets should be changed every week.
Dishes don’t have to be done until there are a sinkful—and when one lives alone, that takes awhile, so dirty dishes in the sink are a given.
Toilet lids should be put down before you flush. (Have you ever read about what gets sprayed around if you don’t do this?! Eeeewwwwww.)
If you’ve never used it and you throw it out, you will need it.
If a man has to tell you how great he is in bed…he isn’t.
If it’s Amazon’s Choice, avoid it like the plague.
Cats will always walk off the linoleum to throw up on the carpet. Having thrown up on the carpet once, they will walk to a fresh spot and throw up again. They will always do this if the carpet has just been cleaned. They will definitely do this as soon as guests arrive in your home.
If you’re barefoot in the morning, you will always step in cat barf. Somehow this will happen even if you don’t own a cat.
If you are looking forward to a day of just relaxing with nothing urgent to do, 25 different chores will rear their ugly heads.
An old friend who you haven’t seen for years will show up unexpectedly on your doorstep on a Sunday afternoon, especially if you are lazing about in your PJs with uncombed hair while the house is a complete mess.
If a particular public or historical figure is your hero, you will learn something horrific about their behavior that will forever tarnish them in your eyes.
If you really liked a movie, the critics will savage it, and you will look like an idiot for saying you enjoyed it.
The family crisis will always happen while you are out of town or otherwise unavailable.
If you finally discover the perfect shade of lipstick or nail polish, the manufacturer will discontinue it the very next month.
If you belittle a dish at a potluck dinner, the person who brought it will be standing right next to you.
The elegant paper invitation you’re sending to the most important person will always be lost by the post office.
If you plan an outdoor activity involving many people, it will rain.
The pet you love best will die young.
If you hesitate to buy it, it will be gone the next time you’re in the store.
You will realize someday with total dismay that there is always going to be at least one person who will be glad to hear that you’ve died.
If you have to be up by 5:00 a.m. to make it to an early work shift, your neighbors will be having a loud party that keeps you awake until at least 2:00 a.m.
The people you love best will be the ones who hurt you most. The very fact that you love them gives them this power over your heart.
If you’ve been waiting for three months for a vital appointment with a medical specialist, you will get a jury duty notice for the day of the appointment.
The power will go out when you are in the midst of attending a critical on-line meeting.
If you make a disparaging remark about someone, they will be standing within hearing range.
There is absolutely no way to make brussels sprouts taste good.
You will get desperately sick just prior to, or during, your long-awaited vacation.
And, finally, (no, Jack!) it is NOT all small stuff!
I’m sure I’ve many other rules and hardcore beliefs under which I operate my life, but these are the most essential.
Now, what are yours?
Let me know in the Comments what rules you live by! If you missed it, you might also want to read the post “Consider Compromise” which sparked this silly little missive. You can find it in the Archives, published October 12.